aku diserang batuk semput sehingga kuman jangkiti tulang rawan, akibat membiarkan batuk tanpa rawatan. terlalu mengikut kata suami, katanya immune badan akan bantu. ok fine. dh berbulan aku pun pergi ke doktor. doktor kata kuman dah lama dibiarkan sehingga berjangkit ke tulang. lalu diberinya antibiotik.
pagi ni aku tertinggal antibiotik di rumah. hp juga. susah bagiku utk blk ke rumah dlm keadaan dada sesak. nak pergi ke klinik atau nk minta tlg org hantarkan, hampir semua ada pemantauan hari ni.
aku pinjam telefon seorang rakan, minta husbandku hantarkan ubat pada pukul 9. jarak dari rumah ke sekolah pada waktu bukan puncak ialah dalam 15 minit. terlalu sakit, aku minta suamiku hantar ubatku segera. diberinya alasan minta cikgu lain hantarkan ke klinik kerana antibiotik will take some time to kick in. masalahnya klinik sekarang peak hour, selalunya 2 jam baru dapat ubat.
air mataku berderai dalam bilik guru. cikgu lain tanya aku tak dapat terangkan sebab sedang teresak dan sesak nafas. bila menangis, perut pun mula sakit. terasa macam baby dalam tekanan. aku kadang terfikir, adakah dia suamiku yang bertanggubjawab menjagaku atau sebaliknya? mesti orang akan cakap “sabar”, tapi iyalah, bukan mereka yang merasa.
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hi..salam..
saya pon ingin cakap sabar… suami awak mungkin xperasan perkara sebegini boleh buat isteri terguris..
harap kesihatan awak akan pulih nanti..
Aini, I’m not experienced in husband-wife relationship coz well… you knowla… I’m still not in one. But still, here’s my opinion.
I believe it was not his intention to let you suffer the pain, let alone abandon your need of attention during pregnancy.
What I learnt from readings is that guys are very straightforward. They are not emphatic, like women, in general. So, the way he answered you was because he thought you were asking for options/ suggestions to solve the problem, not really asking for his help to solve the problem. That, I believe, is their nature.
So, maybe you could try to tell him when both of you cool down a bit. Tell him that you’re going to explain about your point of view and feelings when you called him earlier today. Tell him what did you feel about his reaction. Tell him what was actually you wanted him to do. Tell him that you were hurt. Tell him you were also regret that at the moment you called him, you failed to clearly explain your situation hence you got hurt of his reaction. Maybe you could try to tell him while you’re hugging him. This is to indirectly avoid any unwanted anger from his side. This also makes them feel that you need them. Coz men like to feel needed instead of being instructed by their spouse.
I am still inexperienced in man-women relationship. However, this works every time when I have some misunderstanding with mine. And the great thing is, he starts to think from my poin of view and react accordingly when something almost similar happened.
Cheers!
ainee! *hugs*
agree with norzie. i don’t think it was intentional on his part.
btw norzie, great advice! mcm oprah :p
there’s truth what you commented norzie. i’m too sensitive nowadays to the extent that I cried? Gosh. Malu giler.Not his intention to hurt but after heart to heart talking, (im following norzie advice) we managed to overcome the situation. Norzie can become oprah la.
Hatiku terguris lebih dahsyat sehingga musnah harapan mahu ke jinjang pelamin…Kini, daku meneruskan hidup menerima takdir yg bahawasanya daku akan hidup sendirian tanpa sesiapa sehingga ke usia tua….